Who hasn’t felt heartbreak at some point in their life? What did you do with it? Is it still harbored deep within or have you let it go? Moving through the heart space is not always a pretty task. For the majority of us there has been so much stored and/or numbed! When the unraveling begins, it truly is a beautiful mess.

Today I would like to share a technique that I have used to release pain and hurt from my heart. Let’s call it Practicing Forgiveness.

Step 1: Be aware of what you use to numb your pain and try to refrain from it.

Examples would be alcohol, drugs, television, sex, food, shopping, and the list goes on. As you are working through the process of forgiveness, I highly urge you to refrain from things that you use to numb the pain. You cannot feel something forever. If you allow yourself to feel, it will assist in the process of becoming whole again.

Step 2: Pick the person or situation you want to heal from.

If you do not know exactly what is making you sad and depressed begin a meditation practice and take up Step 1 as a path to discovery.

Step 3: Send healing energy to that person or situation

Spend at least 5 minutes a day sending loving thoughts, reiki, prayers, and/or good energy to the person or situation that has hurt your soul. I also recommend that you do this for a certain amount of time. Set a goal and go for it. I would say 15 days at the least. The more the merrier. This is where your internal process begins. It is not fun. It is not pretty. But it is real, it is honest, and it works!

I can say from personal experience, I traveled to some deep dark places in my soul. I felt so much anger and even hatred. However by the end of it, I was able to give mercy through compassion and empathy. If you do not get there the first time,take a break and go back. Some wounds and traumas go deep, be gentle with yourself and follow your intuition. If it is too much, revisit once compelled to do so.

Step 4: Send healing to self.

You are to begin this step once you have forgiven the person or situation that you started with. You will know when to begin because you will see the person or situation with different eyes. Generally once we release ourselves from the pain that we felt from another, it is time to fill that space up with love. This is when we work on forgiving ourselves and all that nasty shame and guilt that comes with it. Spend at least 5 minutes a day for at least 15 days (again the more the merrier) saying healing affirmations, sending yourself reiki, praying for support, and/or listening for guidance.

To those brave souls who travel this journey: I commend you, I love you and I wish you the best on your journey of healing!!! This route is for those who are ready to take their health and well being in their own hands. May you be empowered to heal yourself.

Please let me know if you have any questions or comments. If you try it out, I would love to hear how it worked for you!!!

With all my love and blessings,

Nichole